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Sunday, October 17, 2010

Simplicity is resourceful. 
When you simplify your life, 
you'll find more room, time, energy, 
and interest 
to do more things.

Friday, September 17, 2010

I am a gift to my world. 
The best thing that I can do is to become a better me. 
The best thing that I can give is the best of me.

Friday, September 3, 2010

Our problem is what we adopt as a problem.

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

For when you let go, it will really go away.

Saturday, May 29, 2010


The little girl in the drawer
safe in the hiding place
in a world without care
holding tight a piece of self.

Friday, May 14, 2010

We laugh a good laugh,
cry a good cry,
life goes on,
and we're just got to move on.
I am what I am today because of His grace,

and what I will be tomorrow is within His favor.

Monday, May 10, 2010

God can use our talent to take us higher, 
but we need a bigger heart,
So there will be enough room for both success and humility.

Thursday, April 8, 2010

As life is a journey, sometimes what matter the most is with whom we are walking through it.

Sunday, April 4, 2010

We are God's masterpiece. Handmade by his loving hands. Redeemed and healed by His blood. Restored by His mercy. That we may dance joyfully in His grace.

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

You've always given me breathing room, a place to get away from it all,...
You've always taken me seriously, God, 
(Psalm 61:3-5, The Message)

Sunday, March 7, 2010

THE BEATITUDES (Great happiness; blessedness)

“Why do I have to be good?”

That questions ever posed by Nathan; my son. At that time I just answered lightly, "it's for your own good."

We all may have heard the definition of whether it is character and why good character is very important to build on in our lives.

At least there are four reasons that underlie all the action we take:

         1. fear
         2. reward
         3. penalty
         4. for truth.

Character is doing what should be done, not because of fear,  not for a reward, or to avoid punishment. Character is the decision to always do the right thing simply because it is the truth.

Someone with good character does not need awards or recognition from others for all the truth that he/she did.  Conversely, he also does not prevent wrongdoing because of fear or simply because to avoid the consequences.

Why is Character Important

In the book "A Box of Chocolates" I wrote about Samson. My point in that writing is that the characters are necessary to deliver our children to succeed. In addition, the characters also will be strong pillars that will sustain their success, so that they achieve the success that will last throughout their lives.

However, when I was preparing this article, I find another reason why the character is very important to be established in our lives.

Consider the Word of God quoted below:

God blesses those who are humble, for they will inherit the whole earth.

God blesses those who hunger and thirst for justice, for they will be satisfied.

God blesses those who are Merciful, for they will be shown mercy.

God blesses those whose hearts are pure, for they will see God.

God blesses those who work for peace, for they will be called the children of God.

 (Matthew 5:5-9, New Living Translation)

This is the famous preaching of Jesus Christ. In the Indonesian translation Bible, this passage titled "Sermon on the Mount".

Lord Jesus said that God blesses those who are meek, hunger and thirst for righteousness, merciful, pure in heart, peacemakers.

All these criteria show that God’s Kingdom character should be owned by us all; the believers.

When we tried to build these characters in children's lives, not only we are preparing them for success that will last throughout their lives, but we also are building a life that brings God's blessing.

As parents, we certainly wish that our children have a life blessed by God, is not it?

In the English translation of the Bible, Matthew 5:1-12 titled "The Beatitudes" which means "great happiness, blessedness". So, if I may conclude, that a person who has the characters mentioned in this passage will have a life filled with the blessings of God and endowed with an abundance of happiness.

I want my children to have such a life. I'm sure so are you. So, let's start building those God’s Kingdom characters in their lives. And let God's help that will empower us all.

Friday, March 5, 2010

Indonesian snacks found in Hotel Tugu, Malang
A danger sign found in Ho Chi Min city

Monday, February 22, 2010

Launching "A Box of Chocolates for Two"

Thursday, January 28, 2010

A Box of Chocolates For Two

I love chocolates (especially the dark ones). Every now and then, I will take one to indulge myself, and it helps to recharge my energy to save the day.

I titled this book "A Box of Chocolates For Two" with the hope that it will 'recharge' your soul as a parent. In this 'box of chocolates' you will find sections specifically addressed for fathers and mothers, according to the strengths and roles of each.

It is an honor to present this book to you and I hope you will enjoy reading it. May this book be the sweet little refreshment that will indulge your spirit and soul.

(The book is available for Pre-Order at Benih.com starting 26 January 2010, and will be released on 22 February* 2010)

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Do your best, prepare for the worst - then trust GOD to bring victory. (Proverbs 21:31, The Message Bible)

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

No dream is too big. The question is how big you are for that dream. You might have (almost) everything, but most important is you have what it takes.

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

God is good. Thus, HE gives us a good life. So, dance it!

Sunday, January 10, 2010

God doesn't miss a thing. He cares. He is able and willing to make all our wishes come true. Plus, He is a good God who never fail. So, why worry? (Hanna Carol)
Life is about giving your best to the world and living a legacy. God created us to be the gift to this world. (Hanna Carol) 

Love, Life, Family

For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. (John 3:16, NKJV)
Jesus Christ has given Himself to us as the most valuable gift: "the ultimate gift ever". He came so that we may have life. Not only a so-so, mediocre life, but an abundant life.
Talking about 'gift', I'm quite sure there's no one who doesn't enjoy receiving a gift. But there is a higher joy, one we can experience when we give something/a gift to someone else.
I've found three most wonderful gifts that God has given to me. These three things are the most highly valued and precious things in my life. These three things are also the most beautiful gifts I can give to others.
#1 The Gift of Love:
Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one's life for his friends. (John 15:13, NKJV)
Sin caused men to be 'handicapped' in love; while God Himself is love. Because of sin men fell from the glory of God. The image of God in men is marred.
Jesus Christ restored the value and true definition of love while demonstrating it in perfection for us.
Men tend to love something or someone that has the capacity to reciprocate the love. But when I couldn't sleep soundly when our pet dog fell ill, or when without realizing it I closely observed the veterinarian when he examined our dog, I began to understand this one thing.
That I care about the health and well-being of our dog, just like I care about the health and well-being our my children. More than just a mere responsibility, I'm sure that love is the cause for this.
I am not a dog lover. I thought I was just being responsible to take a good care of our pet. But when he was sick, I learned that love is absolutely unconditional. We can love something or someone who does not have the capacity to love us back.
If we understand the God's love is the most beautiful gift in our lives, then this love we have can also be the most precious gift that we can give to others.
#2 The Gift of Life:
In an interview, Oprah Winfrey asked the late Michael Jackson, "Do you love our father?", and he answered, "I love him, but I don't know him."
Our heavenly Father loves us and He wants us to know Him and love Him as a person. For that reason Jesus came to the world so we can know the 'person' of God.
Throughout His life, Jesus Christ gave His best. He raised the dead, blessed the children, stood up for a prostitute and restored her dignity, dined with the rejects of society, etc.
What He did in His lifetime still has impacts until today. The works of salvation that He performed in His life continued to march across time and space, reaching across the ages and generations.
This is what I believe, that life is about giving the best of you to the world and about leaving a legacy.
This is what motivated me to write and publish "A Box of Chocolates". I believe that we live in this day and age, with whatever background and abilities we have, to bring impact to this world. We are not just 'passing through' this world, there are God's purpose and plans to our existence on the face of the earth.
If we are giving our best in everything in our possession, materials, talents, abilities, attention and care, then we are following the footsteps of Jesus. Finding our lives’ purpose, living it, and sharing it to the world would be the greatest gift that we can give. And wouldn't it be wonderful if our good works don't just end when our lives cease to exit? Wouldn't it be better if we succeed in leaving something that can be enjoyed by the generations to come, even long after we're gone?
#3 The Gift of Family:
We can't choose the family into which we are born. We can't choose our father, mother and siblings. When the time comes for us to start our own family, then we'll have the chance to choose. We can choose who will be our spouse (and I'm grateful to live in the time and place where I have the right to do so). Then later when we have children, we won't be able to choose who our descendants will be.
There are people whom God has entrusted in our lives, for us to have and to hold.
The people who are closest to us, whether we chose them or not, these are the people whom God has entrusted to us to honor and to love.
Family is God's gift that I value the most. My husband and children are the people who accept and love me as I am.
Mother Theresa once said that love begins in the family, love begins by the people closest to us at home.
So, if we are talking about changing the world and making it a better place to live, we should start with the closest ones: our own family.
Love extravagantly.
Enjoy life abundantly.
Never cease to cherish the people who are dearest to us.
These are the best gifts we can give to the world.

Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Wonderful Two

The ages between 1.5 - 3 years old are a significant period in children's growth and development. In this stage, children begin the process of maturing intellectually and emotionally. They begin to realize that they have self-will and feel a wide range of emotions: happiness, sadness, disappointment, fear, excitement, etc.
Many labeled this critical growth period as the "terrible two", because kids who had been sweet as angels could change 180° in character.
Even ideal parenting could not prevent this phase. The best effort we can make is to help our children get through this phase as well as possible.
Just as a blind person who gains sight, so are children in this period. Suddenly they could 'see' so many things that could be explored, while at the same time everything seemed foreign and new to them.
As a first step, we can help them to identify their emotions and desires or 'wants'. Then give them a short and simple direction on how to deal with those things.
For example, a toddler starts screaming and crying. First, find out the trigger: is it because she wants something, or is there another cause? Let's say she wanted an item that's placed up high, making her frustrated because it's out of her reach, then what we should do is:
  1. Embrace her to calm her down first.
  2. Then carry her closer to the item she wanted.
  3. Communicate with her, saying something like, "Oh, do you want this doll? You're mad because you can't reach it."
  4. After handing the doll to her, look her in the eyes and say, "Next time, please tell Mommy. Point to the toy that you want, then Mommy will get it for you."
The case and solution may vary, but the example above is just to show you the steps that need to be taken. The most important thing is that our solution should fulfill these goals:
  1. Embrace and calm the toddler during her tantrums to give the child a sense of safety, since tantrums arise because the toddler still cannot communicate properly and is emotionally confused because she doesn't yet recognize the feelings going through her.
  2. Identify the problem and offer a solution.
  3. Identify her feelings and introduce her to the right terms, for example: frustrated, angry, sad, etc.
  4. Give a future solution, what she needs to do if she encounters another problem. Teach the toddler to try to communicate it first (tell Mommy, point, etc.), then assure her that we are willing to help her.
Don't miss this important phase of development. I encourage you to read books and other good references on this subject. That's why I won't go into further details on the 'terrible two', but I'd like to let you see it from another perspective.
A few years ago my husband and I visited the Linderhoff castle, which is located at Ammergau Alps, Germany. This castle was the residence of the 18th-century emperor of Bavaria: King Ludwig II.
Prior to my visit, I had seen photos of this castle, which is famous for its beautiful gardens. The problem was we came during winter. I didn't find the beautiful gardens depicted in the pictures, instead I saw bare tree branches with their tips covered in plastic. The reality was so far removed from my expectations.
It's still fresh in my memory that as we walked through the gardens, we had a chance to talk to the gardener. What I remember most is his answer when I asked him why the tip of every branch had to be covered in plastic. It turned out that it was done to protect each tip from drying out during the cold winter, so that when spring came, the branch could still sprout beautiful leaves and blossoms. So throughout winter the gardener had to be extra vigilant in keeping each branch from dehydration.
In my opinion, just like the gardener, "terrible two" is a period where we have to put in extra effort, but seemingly without any results from it. There are no pretty flowers to show from our hard work, there are only bare branches.
But if we can imagine a garden filled with brilliantly colored blossoms, then we will be even more careful in caring for each existing branch.
As surely as the sun rises, so does the day turns. This season will pass, whether or not we are prepared for it. How much we will enjoy the new season mostly depends on how we prepare for it in the passing season.
When springtime comes, we will see beautiful flowers blossoming, if we take care of the branches well during winter.
If we are negligent, we'll be more than likely to complain in the spring because we don't find any flowers on the trees, while we can look at the beauty in the gardens of others.
Just remember this, after winter will come the spring, when everyday the sun seems to shine a little brighter.
There are times when we can’t see the beauty yet, but if we do the right thing during the winter, we will surely harvest the fruit of our hard work. If we navigate our children through their hard time, we will definitely take pleasure in the outcome when the new season arrives.
So, there is no “terrible two”. There is only “wonderful two”, because to everything there is a season, a time for every PURPOSE under heaven (Ecclesiastes 3:1, NKJV). (taken from "A Box of Chocolates for Two")

Monday, January 4, 2010

Love locks at ponte Vacchio, Florence, Italy

Love locks at Ponte Vacchio, Florence, Italy. Right next to the forbidden sign.

Saturday, January 2, 2010


@Fluffycottonville, days are sweet and full of beautiful colors. Even in dark fluffydays, the villagers still choose to be fluffyjolly because life is fluffyprecious.


Friendship and grouphugs are the lifestyle. Meet the Fluffychattysistas:


Meet the stars; Fluffydiscoroma & Fliffybebe


Party or not, everyday is a thank'sgiving day with DJ Floffo, Fluffabartandarocco, Fluffydiscoroma, and Fliffojackorama.


Meet the Fluffycottonville people:


Meet the Fluffycottonville people:


Meet the Fluffycottonville people :


It's New Year! Everybody in Fluffycottonville is so happy. Mommafliffa is cooking delicioso zuppa and Daddafliffo is preparing roastabambabina.

Life is a celebration. Welcoming the year of 2010 with laughter and joy. Sharing great time with great friends. Praying for days full of beautiful bright colors. Grateful for what has passed and hopeful for many more to come.